Sunday, December 13, 2009

IT'S A WONDERFUL LI E week 4 & 5

***There will be no message-based curriculum the week of the 13th or 20th***

Please reference the general discussion makers on the right-hand column of the resource site (click the title any time you want a link to the site itself) for discussion stirring questions that you can tie to the message, any video or book that you are using.

Merry Christmas!!!


Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Christmas Icebreakers & Games

Looking for a last minute Christmas icebreaker or game for your group? Here are a few suggestions from a previous post last Christmas season. Enjoy!

Check out the following:

Christmas Icebreaker Questions such as "What Christmas tradition means most to you?" or "What is your favorite Christmas Carol?"
“Find Someone Who…” Game-- for example, find someone in your group who has seen a live reindeer.
The Wright Family Christmas gift exchange
Christmas Riddle Game with answers
Christmas Scattergories Game Card

Sunday, December 6, 2009

IT'S A WONDERFUL LI E week 3

Instead of playing catch up, unless you feel your group needs to, start this week out differently by diving, first thing, right into a simple exercise:
Once you've begun your official group time, tell everyone to close their eyes, and sit silently in the presence of God. Explain that you are going to assume everyone is running around at a fairly insane December pace, and so for a few moments you're all going to let God have his spot back at your center. Give no other instructions (though you may briefly warn them that distractions will come, and they don't have to feel guilty about that...just promise the distraction, mentally, that you'll deal with it later...). Go five minutes of prayerful silence, and then break.

  • Ask the group in the room what their dominant distraction was. (It will likely be the awkwardness of the 5 minutes with everyone else in the room, and/or the kids' noises in the other room.)
  • Ask which of them felt the time felt was short and for whom it felt long.
  • Ask if anyone felt this was a misuse of group time. (Don't be offended by the answer "yes"... many are wired to feel this way.)
  • Point out natural adjustments to breathing pace and talk about why that is. (People naturally take deep breaths when asked to sit quietly and pray. It's like we instinctively know that our breathing is connected to our thoughts. Some scholars believe that the name of God, YHWH (Yahweh) is comprised of the letters in the Hebrew alphabet that most closely resemble vowels. As such, God's name is four breathing sounds (yuh, huh, wuh, huh...yuh, huh, wuh, huh...), being uttered thousands of times a day by even the most devout Atheist!)
  • Ask how this simple exercise can be repeated once or more a day, and what stands against such a practice.

Read
  • Mark 1:29-37
  • Thoughts?
  • What are some of the reasons people would be looking for Jesus?
Leader note: Of course some just wanted to be near him, but it's a safe assumption that there was more healing and teaching to be done. Note that the healings didn't even start till after sunset. And the whole town showed up. It's safe to assume that, at one point, Jesus went to bed and promised to reconvene in the morning.
  • How would you feel if your very sick child needed what, seemingly, only Jesus could offer, and yet He was nowhere to be found?
  • How would you feel once you found out he was off"doing nothing" or "praying".
  • What would your employer/fellow employees say if you started limiting your availability after-hours and weekends?
Read
  • Luke 5:15-16
  • Thoughts?

Leader note: There's not much to for the Gospel writers to write about these times. jesus was just "gone". So, though it's just a sentence here and there about Jesus "often" doing it, it seems to comprise much of the limited time Jesus had. It may help your group to acknowledge that the miracles and the teachings have an obvious spot in the writings, but in terms of Jesus "not producing", there's nothing to capture by nature of the inactivity...yet we're told it was a constant practice of His. To be like Jesus is to have parts of your story that are unwritable, because you were resting privately and there is no content.

Discuss
  • Why would Jesus, the Son of God, need rhythm in His life?
  • Why wouldn't that rhythm be post-poned since His three-year ministry was so limited?

Read
  • Exodus 34:21
  • Thoughts?
  • Most translations use the wording "even during harvest". Why?
  • Discuss the modern equivalent of this command for us.

Apply
  • Using the bucket picture that Jonathan gave, what are things that deplete you, or "drain your bucket"?
  • How does focusing on these things that drain actually you play out in your actual life?

Leader note: This is about helping people illuminate how much of their day is week is dedicated to what is draining them and how they work to plug the holes, verses working hard and then being intentional about stopping, and filling up with good things. The "one day" of Sabbath only carries weight when their is both an intentionality about it, and "six other days" of work that everybody is clear about!

  • What fills your bucket up?
  • Even if you like them, are these good for you long term.

Leader note: Help the group speak into each others' lives with no worries about being judgmental. If someone says that the bar on Friday nights fills up their bucket, you may have a sense that people want to ask how that seems like a worthy thing to fill their bucket with. Gently step into that and ask for permission to ask follow up questions. In many respects, something like the bar example is actually another drain, as the relationships formed in that world can be shallow (as they're so often based on checking out of responsibility and longterm wisdom), the money can be wasted and the behavior can be unwise. Not always, but often. Filling the bucket doesn't just mean anything that scratches an itch, but intentional soul-shaping rest and joy.

  • How can this group help you with a new rhythm?
  • What stands against you?
  • What stands against the group?
  • What stands against this lasting more than a few weeks?
  • What practices can you immediately put in place, such as the one at the top of the meeting, to begin?
  • Who in the group can lead the effort of accountability for some of the busier members of the group?

Leader note: Make some decisions on how you can live in better rhythm daily and weekly. When people will bust their tales, and when they and their family are unavailable. This may require a couple weeks of discussion, coming back to new ideas from time to time, to get a new rhythm to fully catch on.

Monday, November 30, 2009

OOPS! (It's a wonderful LI E part II)

Sorry leaders. You can guess what my excuse is for the lack of message specific LifeGroup questions this week. I'll spare you all that (though I will say it's great to be back in NC!!!) and provide you with the generic questions that are good for creating discussion after a message, to discuss a book or video, etc... These questions are always located at the bottom right on the Group Leader site, titled "General Discussion Makers". You may want to add to this particular study a meditation on Philippians 4 and Matthew 12:34, as well as other proverbs about the heart and its contents.


What were the key points for you?

What was the "one thing" you took away?

What surprised you?

What bothered you? Why?

Have you ever heard or come across a similar teaching or idea? Have you ever been taught something that was contradictory?

What is/was already part of your thinking on this subject?

What did you learn that was new to you?

*About God?

*About yourself?

*About others?

What changes of thought are necessary in light of what you learned?

What changes of action are needed?

How would life be different if you/we applied this teaching fully?

What are the hindrances, and what do we do about those?

What role can this group lay to help you take steps this week and beyond?



Sunday, November 22, 2009

IT'S A WONDERFUL LI E week 1

Most of us can point to a day when we "first trusted God" or "first placed our faith in Him". And though all of us would quickly admit that we're far from perfect, if someone were to really look at our life, our decisions and how we actually go about the business of living the existence God gave us, it would seem we didn't believe there was a God at all.
What or Who we say we hope in actually has been given little weight if any. Its as Jeremiah said, God is near our lips but far from our hearts. And with this lie we've told ourselves, there is no a life God did not intend, full of turmoil, anxiety and weariness...and very much lacking the peace He offers.
Through Christmas, we'll be discussing how this fallacy is living itself out in our day-to-day, and the hope that we have in God's grace and redirection. How the information we have can be actually turned into a radically new way of living....not just a radical thing we believe. As the series opens in week one, we begin by grounding ourselves in trust and dependence on God, in a very real, lived out sense. Invite your group into the deeper waters of trust beyond an idea, and into a daily lived reality. You may note that some of the content in the beginning of the message was taken from Day 5 of the Leader Journal "While Shepherds Watch Their Flock".


Thaw
  • Looking back at your life, what's an example of doing something foolishly because you were intent on doing it your own way?
  • Why did you feel you had to do it your way?

Leader note: see if any stories shared have the common denominator of self-protection or the advancement of a selfish agenda, verses the "others-centered love" of God.

  • What stuck with you the most from the message Sunday?
  • What was a new insight that God gave you during or after the message?


Read
  • Matthew 6:25-34
  • Thoughts?
  • How does this apply today?
  • Is Jesus being realistic? why or why not?
  • What does it look like to take this too far?
  • What does it look like when you don't take this far enough?


Read
  • 1 Corinthians 2:1-5
  • Thoughts?
  • Why is it so important for Paul to put a disclaimer in his letter to Corinth?

Leader note: Help your group come to realize that he is teaching dependence on God and not himself. You may want to intersperse John 3:27-30 here as well to see John the Baptists perspective of him carrying out his role, yet within the dependent boundaries of his faith in the Christ.

Discuss
  • Why is living life God's way so difficult?
  • What are specific ways that it sometimes seems impossible?

Leader note: push gently here, but allow the members to share what they are up against with God and His way. It could be difficulty, stubbornness, lack of Biblical insight, religious baggage or something else. Allow the group to speak to it insofar as they speak on the way of God. This is a perfect opportunity for people to say "your way didn't didn't work? Try it my way!" This is obviously not the goal either. You will find that throughout your meeting, you will be pointing to the scriptures more and more as the chief source of wisdom. Lift them up as the arrow that points to Christ and His Spirit, as the Bible was never intended to have the last word. Dependence on the present Spirit of God is the goal!

Read
  • Proverbs 3:1-6
  • Thoughts?

Discuss
  • Biblically, it is considered wise to live in the ways of God and heed His instruction. How do we get wisdom into our hearts?
  • What are some specific examples of how our culture at large contradicts the wisdom of daily trust in God?

Leader note: examples might be how we create and maintain friendships, how we see members of the opposite sex, how we see and spend money, what we do with anger and frustration , etc... Our culture is very much unconcerned with God's wisdom, but living out whatever feels right or looks good. This sounds on the surface like an issue for teen ministry...but it doesn't ever go away with age. find a way to confront it.

Apply
  • How can we begin to live in dependence on the way of God in specific areas of our life?
  • How can this group be part of that effort?
  • What are the hang-ups in our day-to-day existence that will cause problems with living in the sacred choreography?
  • What are we able and willing to do about these once and for all?

Chew
  • As a group, spend some time and read silently through Proverbs chapter 3 and 4. Make notes, write down questions and copy down passages that stand out on separate sheets of paper to ponder for the remainder of the week.
  • Discuss this reading as you see fit at the close of your meeting. Be sure and spend some time in prayer with God that what has been discuss can become an actual, lived way of increased dependence on the Spirit of Christ every day.

Monday, November 16, 2009

N&O Highlights LifeGroup

Great job to Pin Pin and her LifeGroup for making "love" a verb, and the name of Jesus known!

http://www.newsobserver.com/news/local_state/story/194414.html

Steve





Sunday, November 15, 2009

Drive. Park?

Hey leaders,
many of you have been on the journey Drive took us on from the very beginning. Many others of you came later, but were no less impacted by our community getting intentional about where we felt like God was/is taking us.
If its a fit for your group's discussion, go over what most inspired you from Sunday morning. There were many elements of the experience to stir the thoughts and point us both backward and forward. Discuss what's next for your group as you take the mission of Crosspointe forward. What can you as a group do on Sunday mornings to enhance our environment? What could your involvement look like at the Durham Rescue Mission in the short and long term? Financially, how can the group each take a step into further trust God and fund the mission? Can your group go to Haiti- perhaps Kenya? Perhaps just a few members go, and the rest of the group support and encourage the effort? Have others gone in the last three years and do they have anything to share with the rest of the group? Be creative and find out how your group can step even more into the dream God has for us.

There are many things to discuss. As leaders, the bottom line is that we have to do the work of aligning our members with the flow that God has created, and revealed to us largely through Drive. It's shepherding (sheep-herding) 101: gently corralling each member of the herd in the direction they need to go. We're all doing it each week. Thank you for making that happen!

Steve





Sunday, November 8, 2009

November 8

I hope you have had a chance to discuss what some in your group may have decided last Sunday with regard to saying "yes" to Jesus in some way. You group will serve as the main environment that that yes gets encouraged and carried out.

We would love to hear some stories about all that, so while maintaining an appropriate amount of confidentiality, please share what you can about your members' growth in the last few weeks and what that means.

Additionally, make sure your plan for meeting is absolutely clear through the end of the year. Thanksgiving dinner? Serving together? Holiday travel? Christmas plans? New Year's? Get out your calendars and make sure you're all on the same page so the year doesn't fizzle out.
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This week's stand-alone message is positioned at the perfect time, as we determine what we mean when we say yes to Jesus, as well as try and meet all the other expectations that mount from this point on, through the end of the year. As the leader, try and hep your group understand how this issue is largely performance-based, and that understanding a life lived free of false expectations is a life lived in peace.

You may want to recommend this book for members that want to take these valuable ideas further for themselves and their family.


Thaw
  • What would be the ramifications of you sitting on the couch all this whole week, getting up only to eat and use the bathroom?
  • What is the difference between fulfilling healthy responsibilities, and trying to meet unhealthy expectations?
  • What stuck with you most from the message this week?
  • Do you feel like there is an area that God wants you to focus on specifically, or perhaps a general sense of expectation that hangs over you? Share.


Read
  • Luke 10:38-42
  • Thoughts?

Leader note: Help the group identify that this passage isn't a depiction of good vs evil. So often we think that's the theme of scripture; but here Jesus points out a good vs. better.

  • How did Martha's pressure get passed on to her sister?
  • How would this have gone if the guest were someone other than Jesus?

Leader note: The point here is that it's likely Mary would have been dubber "lazy", or somehow less a guest than Martha. Of course, a guest less than Jesus certainly changes the pressures to sit at his feet, get things ready, etc..., but this doesn't lessen the reality that Martha is subtly judging her sister for not operating under the same expectations she is apparently operating under. As a result, Martha is in the presence of Christ and is bitter, wrongly focused and enjoying little or no peace.

  • Verse 38 says that the home is Martha's. How does this affect the pressure she feels to fulfill expectations?
  • Knowing its her house, and her sister doesn't seem to share her values for hospitality, how could she have handled this better from the beginning?

Discuss
  • How is it that the perceptions of others become an expectation?
  • How do we avoid this?
  • How do we turn it around if we recognize it too late.

Leader note: Make sure the group is aware of cynicism. Simply refusing to be nice, hospitable, engaged, diligent, etc. for the sake of personal "peace" is not the answer, as it is simply a pendulum swing in the opposite direction.

  • What are some expectations that your family has on you that creates pressure, anger, resentment? Where do these expectations come from?
  • What are cultural expectations that you feel you fall short of, also creating negativity? Where do these come from?
  • Are there unhealthy expectations at work or school that you continue to be mastered by?
  • How do you choose what to say yes to?
  • How do you choose what to say no to?
  • What can you imagine the benefits would be in being able to say yes to the right things for you, your family and your journey?

Meditation
  • Spend some time thinking of your life in columns, and how expectations and pressures shape how you live in each column. You may want to break down your life into categories like family, work, recreation, etc... (having a category called "faith" or "spirituality" is unbiblical, because the collection of categories is, together, your spiritual life. It's tied to each thing we do.) For instance, you may want to have a column for "children" and ask why they are involved in what they are involved in; are you trying to not go down in their history as a disinterested parent, a disappointing mom or dad? Are they dressed the way they are to impress other parents? Do you live in guilt for not being what you think your children need, and therefore are you parenting out of guilt and hopes to not further disappoint? Do the work of sorting through some of this in various categories, and write it down. You can then begin asking where the pressures and expectations come from, and then how do you choose more wisely what you say "yes" to. God will help free you from the slavery of living under the perceived expectations (or real unhealthy ones) of others so that you can simply do what's best.

Sunday, November 1, 2009

Enough 05

In this final installment of "Enough", we find that the theme is carried on fluidly, while at the same time we're thrown a curveball. What has been all about God, from his hand, out of his heart and totally outside of our sphere of influence, is not planted in our laps as something that busies us, redirects all our energies and becomes categorized as very much something WE do.

"For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."

So often (most often?), our faith is relegated to an intellectual, if even at times emotional pursuit of a historical figure that once had a few important things to say, if only we can crack the ancient code. We forget that Jesus didn't go the way of Alexander the Great or Gandhi; Jesus is still here (Matt 28:20). We're still invited to follow Jesus, not just study about him.

This week, be bold. You always are...I know. But this week, crank it up to about 11. Be bold enough to lead your group to do something outside of itself in the pursuit of Christ. The Christians need a shot in the arm. Lukewarm ones need a fire lit under their rear-ends. Non-believers need to find Jesus beyond the discussion if they're ever going to surrender. So find a way as the shepherd of your group to lead the flock past the room you meet in, metaphorically and literally, so as to help them become literal rather than metaphoric followers of the Christ. We can't wait to hear the stories of how all that goes down! (be sure and read the last paragraph ahead of time so that you can be thinking all evening how you want to direct your group to move on the discussion you'll be having.)


Thaw
  • What does November bring for your family, traditionally?
  • Does anyone experience changes at work when the seasons change?
  • Does anyone have changes of mood when the seasons change?
  • What has God taught you over the last 5 weeks through this series?
  • What stuck with you most from this last message?
  • Did anyone here say "yes" to something and lay a card on the stage? Don't tell us yet what it was, but describe for us what that experience was like.

Read
  • Eph 2:8-10
  • Thoughts?
  • How does this passage change your perception of the faith?
  • What have you been reminded of that you had forgotten?
  • The last part is about good works. What is Paul pushing for?

Leader note: For some contextual insight into what was likely in Paul's very Jewish mind when he wrote this, read here. Also, importantly, note that the literal translation on verse 10 is "prepared beforehand so that we could walk in them". Motion, "way of life", lived-out kinds of themes are insisted upon by the text!

  • The word for "workmanship" is ποίημα ("poiÄ“ma"), where we get our modern English word "poem". We are a work of art, created by the reputation of Christ, to create good works in the world that align with the reputation of Christ. How does this understanding alter your view of the passage, the faith or even your day-to-day life?

Leader note: If anyone is hung up about Paul's twist "it's not by works.....we have to DO works", spend some time discussing the difference between doing things to get God's love, or doing things because of God's love. Consider Dallas Willard's phrase:

Grace is opposed to earning, not to effort.
Read
  • Matthew 9
  • Thoughts?
  • How would you describe all that happened in Matthew's life in this chapter?
  • Who does Matthew look like to outsiders? Explain.

Leader note: Religious people would have held on to the "Tax Collector" moniker in referring to him, but to everyone else, Matthew would have been very plainly seen, by the way he oriented all his life and energies, as "one of the Jesus ones"....or a Christ-ian.

  • What challenges and benefits might there be for us, in 2009, in being Jesus-followers that follow Spirit, rather than flesh and blood?

Leader note: If some in the group insist that people can't believe now, like they did then, remind your group that believers (Jews) and non-believers (Romans) alike crucified Jesus, rather than found themselves having an easy time believing. Matthew 28 ends with a resurrected Jesus being believed in and doubted within the same crowd! Seeing is not always believing. That's why we're told to "do good works", not "talk good talk"....it's on the road, walking, that we most learn to practice the presence of the Spirit of the resurrected Christ!

Apply
  • How do we move from intellectual appreciation to following?
  • What are the modern-day tax collectors booths that we must get up from?
Leader note: it's not always about quitting your job, though it is no less than that sometimes. Don't let the group think too narrowly about Matthew getting up from his desk.

  • Why do many people hear the call of Jesus to follow him, to trust him completely, and to become part of what he is setting right in the world, and settle for less?
  • What is most exciting to you about the prospect of reorienting your life around the interests of Christ?
  • What is the most terrifying?
  • How can this group say "yes" take one step right now toward becoming more, literal, Jesus-followers? If you said "yes on Sunday, tell us what you said yes about.
* Is there anyone willing to step into faith in Christ for the first time? How can the group help? * Are there folks who are willing to admit they have been nagged by God's Spirit about something that isn't "following"? How can we help you step into it?
*Are there people kicking around something they sense God is inviting them to do, but it comes with a cost? Share with us.
*Other thoughts in relation to following Christ?


Leader note: Watch your group. You know them better than any set of questions can- so look for ways and opportunities to challenge the group to look at your time together as a catalyst for something life-changing. God is already at work, his grace has already been poured out. Sometimes we just need to nudge to pick it up and walk (run!) with it. Commit to writing or scheduled follow up emails, coffee, phone calls on anything thats been shared by your group. There's no formal "Baptism day" scheduled anymore, so as a group, you can make it for whenever you wish. Additionally, you may seriously consider having an official conversation about your group's involvement with the Durham Rescue Mission, Haiti, Kenya, Joy in Hope (the new organization that handles Haiti and Kenya that will need an army of volunteers....I mean followers, very soon. Now that you have had this discussion, give it a direction to move toward so it doesn't end in the minds of your group members as talk. Talk is important, obviously. But for many, the time has come to give these talks feet.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Enough 04

"...and this not of yourselves. It is the gift of God, not by works, so no one one should boast".

This week is another way of reinforcing much the same idea: what we have from god came exactly from there- God. It's not something we were able to procure from ourselves or make God want to give us more than his own heart already did before it even occurred to us.

This week, we'll contrast how we "do relationships" with people and with God to help us call out in ourselves the false view of God and of the righteousness he provides we may have. This is significant because the peace that comes with a right view of God's salvation can only be experienced when you understand you're not manipulating him with your saintliness in order to stay saved.

Many in the Crosspointe congregation have a deep appreciation for Jesus, yet are also deeply convinced (to the extent that many don't even realize they believe this) that somehow what we are/do positions us within God's eternal favor. The side-effect of this is double-edged; always wondering when it's enough, and always comparing yourself to others less holy in some area. Grace becomes something we earn, as well as boast about among our less spiritual friends. Neither dynamic is true Christianity, and obviously flies in the face of what Paul insists. So, help your group do the hard work of exploring what and why they believe, and step more fully into the scandalous grace of Jesus Christ.


Thaw
  • What's one thing you see God doing in your life?
  • What's one thing you want to see God doing in your life?
  • What most stuck with you from the message Sunday?
  • Is there anyone in the group that is willing to admit that while someone was answering the question about what God is doing in our lives, you felt a sense of jealousy about their connection with God, and felt distance from God that you wished you knew how to remedy? Share.
  • Do you believe this disconnected feeling is the absence of God's grace and love, or is it just a sense that your spiritual apathy has begun to cost you relationally with God?

Leader note: The last question is a huge distinction. The first part is about feeling as though I don't have something right in my journey, and so God has abandoned me. What do I do to woo him back?" The second is the very real sense that, "though God still loves me, I haven't lived by that love or disciplined my heart to live in relation to it, and I feel cold". The second didn't put God's unmerited favor in question, it's just the group member admitting that he/she hasn't lived in response to God lately and feels the pangs as a result.

Read
  • Ephesians 2:1-10
  • As you read and reread this over the weeks, are there any themes or layers that you are noticing that you haven't before? Share.

Read
  • Genesis 3:6-13 and verse 21
Leader note: There are a ton of other directions the discussion can go with this passage. If you get the sense that this is where the group needs to go, dedicate some time to it and then move on. Perhaps scheduling a whole night in the future to all the questions and thoughts surrounding this text is a good idea. But don't let side-conversations about pain in child-birth, talking serpents and God over or under-reacting take away from the discussion at hand!
  • Thoughts?
  • Bonus question: Whose fig leaf apparel looked better, and why? (have fun).
  • Deep question alert: What are some of the changes you can imagine would occur between people who had previously related to each other with their own fig leaves between them (their own presentation, based on their own identity and strengths), versus people who relate to each other with the sacrifice of God between them (their identity rooted in what God is and has done)?

Read (at same time)

  • Isaiah 64:6
  • Rom 3:21-24
  • Gal 2:21
  • Why is it important to continue to emphasize our ineptitude in achieving righteousness and holiness on our own?

Leader note: many hold to the thought that God is so self-absorbed that he needs us to feel badly about ourselves. Explore in your discussion here that all of these passages and more are in reaction to a certain mindset that puts God's love as contingent on our work. Some of us get really cocky the more we believe this, which deeply affects our ability to humbly love and serve each other, as well as have any peace before our Father.

  • Why is it so important to Paul and others that our faith system be wholly and completely centered on Jesus and what he did, rather than anything we do? Doesn't this let us off the hook?

Read

  • Luke 18:9-14
  • Thoughts?
  • Does God want us groveling, or is he after something else? Explain.
  • How does this passage speak to how we see others that are, what we would say at least to ourselves, "worse sinners than me"?
  • Respond as a group to this quote

Evangelism is just one beggar telling the other beggars where she found some bread.

Discuss

  • If our faith is in Christ Himself, and not in anything we are or do or know, and not in any organized group of Jesus-followers, how is life affected?
  • Be honest: would any of the groups' answers to the above question be the same if you exchanged Jesus for some other god or moral standard? Why is it different with Jesus?
  • This coming Sunday, our community is going to be invited to take a step and say "yes" to Jesus in some way. How will your life be different by you saying "yes" to Jesus in some way this week?

Leader note: You may want to call out specific people and embrace the awkward here. Many people have gotten so used to telling Jesus "wait", that they no longer realize they are telling Him "no". Statistically, a gentle but specific question about all this can get people thinking intentionally about their actual response to Jesus and bear much fruit!

  • How can this group help you say "Yes", not so much to religion or to theology or two anything but Jesus himself?

Prayer

Additional texts:

  • Galatians 2:16
  • James 3:2
  • Romans 3:9-28

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Enough 03

Hey Leaders
Once again, utilize the general discussion makers for your group time this week. We'll begin with more message specific questions for the message next Sunday.


What were the key points for you?

What was the "one thing" you took away?

What surprised you?

What bothered you? Why?

Have you ever heard or come across a similar teaching or idea? Have you ever been taught something that was contradictory?

What is/was already part of your thinking on this subject?

What did you learn that was new to you?

*About God?

*About yourself?

*About others?

What changes of thought are necessary in light of what you learned?

What changes of action are needed?

How would life be different if you/we applied this teaching fully?

What are the hindrances, and what do we do about those?

What role can this group lay to help you take steps this week and beyond?


Saturday, October 10, 2009

enough part II

Bonjou from Haiti.
We're all well and hoping good things for you as your groups gather this week, discuss, pray and wrestle with the best news in the Universe: God's grace offered to us- all of us- in Jesus Christ.

Use these general discussion makers and pertinent texts to take Sunday's message further. The texts at the bottom are texts used throughout the message, and are good to read aloud, discuss the initial thoughts, wrestle through the implications and even the hang ups- and discover the meaning intended for the original reads, and us today.

What were the key points for you?

What was the "one thing" you took away?

What surprised you?

What bothered you? Why?

Have you ever heard or come across a similar teaching or idea? Have you ever been taught something that was contradictory?

What is/was already part of your thinking on this subject?

What did you learn that was new to you?

*About God?

*About yourself?

*About others?

What changes of thought are necessary in light of what you learned?

What changes of action are needed?

How would life be different if you/we applied this teaching fully?

What are the hindrances, and what do we do about those?

What role can this group lay to help you take steps this week and beyond?


Relevant texts:

Eph 2:8-10

Col 1:21-22

Rom 5:6-11

Rom 2:4

Titus 3:3-7

...and may you dream with your LifeGroup what you all can not only discuss about God's saving grace, but how and where you can go make it happen together. (I can think of one particular, Caribbean locale....but there are other great, local ones too, and don't require a passport. Dream big.)

Steve



Sunday, October 4, 2009

Enough 01

How many times has a group member said something that implied, or flat out said, that they believe we will "go to heaven if we're good"? Or that God gets angry and manipulates us with bad circumstances until we read our Bibles more, pray longer and more frequently, etc? Probably plenty, because for people who have spent their whole lives as members o churches, or have spent their whole lives avoiding them, many of them have the same view of God; that you have to really work at being loved, and then you have to really work at remaining that way.

In this first week of discussion, you may find that the best thing for some of your group members is just to allow them to share their view of God's mercy/grace/love and what we must do to procure it. Do some loving confrontation and ask,

"Interesting thought, Bob....how did you arrive at that conclusion?"

"Mary, a lot of people would agree with you view. But can you show us in the Bible where that comes from, because it seems it says something else entirely..."

Once we begin to see just how amazing Grace actually is, it doesn't make us lazy Christians or people who take God for granted (although there are very often seasons of that as people readjust to the relationship, and come out of rule following...), but very free, peace-filled followers of our loving Father in Heaven. And that changes everything.


Thaw
  • Has there ever been a time that you messed something up at work, and rather than it turning out as bad as you anticipated, you were given grace and retained your position and involvement? Do tell.
  • Have you ever seen examples of someone deserving punishment or isolation was given the opposite and it worked out for the better?
  • What has stuck with you the most from Sunday's message?
  • What was something you had never heard before?
  • How has Grace been shaping your view of God and your relationship to Him?


Read
  • Ephesians 2:1-10
  • Thoughts?
  • What does it mean to be "dead in transgression and sin"?
  • What does it mean to be "alive in Christ"?
  • What is it that makes one cross over from "death to life"?
  • Does your answer to the previous sound like God is responsible, or some well focused human energy gets you there?

Discuss
  • What are some of the problems with grace?
  • If God had chosen the same system that other religions had used, what would Christianity look like?

Read
  • 1 Timothy 1:12-16
  • Considering Saul/Paul's history (Acts 8-9), what are your thoughts?
  • In verse 16, Paul refers to the grace and patience he was shown, despite his past, as an example God was making of him for others to see. How does this differ from how we usually think of an authority confronting our darkness by "making an example of us"? What are the risks? Why would God do it?

Read
  • Galatians 4:4-9, Philippians 3:4-8
  • Thoughts?

Discuss
  • Why wouldn't someone want to surrender themselves to the grace of God? Why do we seem to gravitate to a system that requires work to be on a scale?
  • How is all this different than the Jesus you learned prior?
  • Does this mean that there is nothing to work at at all?
  • Respond as a group to this quote by Dallas Willard:
"Grace is not opposed to effort, it is opposed to earning. Earning is an attitude. Effort is an action."

Apply
  • So what? What does this have to do with our life?
  • How does a better understanding of grace shape your relationships?
  • How does a better understanding of grace help you deal with your past, or your anxieties about the merits of your present?
  • If you have been trying to impress God with your scale-tipping goodness, how can this group help you step into the grace of Christ and become a trusting follower of Jesus Christ?
Prayer
  • Spend some time praying that the Holy Spirit would reveal all the ways we live as a people trying to get God to love us, to be impressed with us, or to be less upset with us due to our resume of deeds. Pray that the group would know peace that only comes with understanding the grace and love shown to us in Christ Jesus. Pray also for people that have cheapened grace by making it something that gets you out of trouble. That it's something to shrug our shoulders at since "God is going to forgive it any way". Finally, pray over anyone in the group that doesn't know this grace and has, as a result, settled for living outside of it in the world where you must work to keep the scales tipped to the "good" side so that God will be good to us.

Sunday, September 27, 2009

...THE END... the last sign

So, did you have fun with this series? Without a doubt, there were some themes and ideas that you had in mind that we didn't get to in 4 weeks. There were also some themes we got to that you may not have even noticed because we tackled them differently than many of us traditionally expect.
We're hopeful that people have felt encouraged to embrace mystery and yet feel more solid in their trust of Christ as we've dived into some pretty strange territory. Give us feedback on what God did in the last four weeks as you and your group have wrestled with The End.

This week, there's literally a thousand different ways to go about discussing judgment and thousands of hours to cover it in. Use this discussion to solidify your group's view of the character of God as revealed in Christ (John 14) and begin disbelieving in a divine terrorist that's coming to slay us all. Indeed, Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow and it's this very Jesus we stand before and are called into account. How do we begin to look forward to this, versus dread it as so many have been taught to do? How do we allow the character of God to judge us today, bringing us into conformity with his son?

As you discuss judgment, be sure and help your group understand that judgment isn't merely an announced condemnation, but is, Biblically, God calling things back into conformity with his way and spotlighting everything that's out of alignment with that. Judgment is How God sets things right again!


Thaw

Leader note: Note that the application section at the end of this study is intended to be heavy. Make sure and leave time for that part of the discussion and the prayer time at the end so that it doesn't lose its value by being squeezed in, or neglected.
  • What's something you have learned about God in the last 4 weeks?
  • Has there ever been a time where you ordered food that wasn't good for you while your friend ordered something very healthy? How did you feel?
  • Have you ever been talking about someone and the other person said that they weren't comfortable discussing someone that wasn't present? How did you feel?

Leader note: These are scenarios where the person isn't being judgmental, and yet their life and way call your own behavior into judgment. It's an example of an absolute standard being revealed without condemnation. You may have other examples that illustrate that sense that, even if it angers you, you recognize that a good and pure judgment has occurred.
  • What impacted you most from the message Sunday?
  • What other thoughts has it stirred up?


Read
  • Isaiah 6:1-7
  • Thoughts?
  • What did God say to Isaiah to call him into judgment about the purity of his speech?
  • Explain what happened in this passage in your own words.

Read
  • Luke 5:1-8
  • What did Jesus say about Simon (Peter's) sinfulness?
  • How would you explain what has happened in this passage with regard to judgment?

Read
  • John 8:1-11
  • Thoughts?
  • How would you say Jesus handles sin?

Leader note: It's worth pointing out and discussing that Jesus says he doesn't condemn the woman (though she is not on record as having asked for this mercy and forgiveness...because God doesn't play games with magic words and phrases...he knows what we desire and what's in our best interests) though he clearly condemns the sinful behavior. Why else wouldn't he command that she never do it again? Some in the group may note that this passage doesn't show up in early manuscripts and that it seems to have been added later. There is some scholarship that suggests (convincingly) that this passage was originally not in John, but was to be found at the end of what we call Luke 21. Here, the original Greek style is perfectly attune to Luke's vocabulary and style, and flows better in the text. If it doesn't come up....you don't have to bring it up. This could definitely take you off the rails in your discussion!

Discuss
  • Knowing that God wants to restore all creation to its original state of goodness (Gen 1:31, Rev 21:1-4), what are reasons people may or may not look forward to the Judge coming to set things right?

Leader note: You may want to reference Isaiah 33:22 and Psalm 98:4-9 to establish that, in many examples in the Hebrew Scriptures (Old Testament), judgment is something eagerly anticipated. You may also recognize in further study of this subject, that often times judgment is NOT something israel looked forward to. In those times, they had gotten too comfy, creating idols and living out of alignment with the Way of God. Judgment was always a more ominous idea in those seasons. But, as an oppressed but faithful people, judgment was always a welcomed reality. Interesting what difficulty can do to our desire for God's goodness!

  • What's are some differences between a person that welcomes the judgment of God, and one that dreads it?
  • What shifts have to take place for one to change their position on judgment?

Read
  • Luke 12:2-3
  • How does this passage affect how we live today?
  • Is fear of being found out the point? Why or why not?
  • What value does God have in one day turning all the lights on and disclosing all the secrets?

Leader note: That "disclosing" or "revealing" in the Luke 12 passage is the Greek word "apokolypto".

Apply
  • How does God's judgment affect our day-to-day growth?
  • How does God's judgment affect our hope in a world where things are often not fair?
  • How can this group employ Christ's style of judgment, while at the same time letting go of religion's style of judgment?
  • In what ways might the Spirit of Christ want to bring his judgment into the lives of this LifeGroup, but the members will not allow it?

Leader note: This is only something to dive into if you have left yourself time to "go there". Many people choose the seeming safety of shadows rather to step into light and allow themselves to be known. God uses community to begin to bring this about, so you may want to allow yourself time to get into specifics as you see fit as the leader of your unique group.


Prayer
  • Invite the Word of God, Jesus, and the two-edged sword of his absolute goodness to wage war against all that which works against him. Leave a solid chunk of time for this to occur, and challenge the group to take some time at various points this week to keep up this prayer exercise of inviting the judgment of Christ.

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