Sunday, December 13, 2009
IT'S A WONDERFUL LI E week 4 & 5
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Christmas Icebreakers & Games
Check out the following:
Christmas Icebreaker Questions such as "What Christmas tradition means most to you?" or "What is your favorite Christmas Carol?"
“Find Someone Who…” Game-- for example, find someone in your group who has seen a live reindeer.
The Wright Family Christmas gift exchange
Christmas Riddle Game with answers
Christmas Scattergories Game Card
Sunday, December 6, 2009
IT'S A WONDERFUL LI E week 3
- Ask the group in the room what their dominant distraction was. (It will likely be the awkwardness of the 5 minutes with everyone else in the room, and/or the kids' noises in the other room.)
- Ask which of them felt the time felt was short and for whom it felt long.
- Ask if anyone felt this was a misuse of group time. (Don't be offended by the answer "yes"... many are wired to feel this way.)
- Point out natural adjustments to breathing pace and talk about why that is. (People naturally take deep breaths when asked to sit quietly and pray. It's like we instinctively know that our breathing is connected to our thoughts. Some scholars believe that the name of God, YHWH (Yahweh) is comprised of the letters in the Hebrew alphabet that most closely resemble vowels. As such, God's name is four breathing sounds (yuh, huh, wuh, huh...yuh, huh, wuh, huh...), being uttered thousands of times a day by even the most devout Atheist!)
- Ask how this simple exercise can be repeated once or more a day, and what stands against such a practice.
- Mark 1:29-37
- Thoughts?
- What are some of the reasons people would be looking for Jesus?
- How would you feel if your very sick child needed what, seemingly, only Jesus could offer, and yet He was nowhere to be found?
- How would you feel once you found out he was off"doing nothing" or "praying".
- What would your employer/fellow employees say if you started limiting your availability after-hours and weekends?
- Luke 5:15-16
- Thoughts?
- Why would Jesus, the Son of God, need rhythm in His life?
- Why wouldn't that rhythm be post-poned since His three-year ministry was so limited?
- Exodus 34:21
- Thoughts?
- Most translations use the wording "even during harvest". Why?
- Discuss the modern equivalent of this command for us.
- Using the bucket picture that Jonathan gave, what are things that deplete you, or "drain your bucket"?
- How does focusing on these things that drain actually you play out in your actual life?
- What fills your bucket up?
- Even if you like them, are these good for you long term.
- How can this group help you with a new rhythm?
- What stands against you?
- What stands against the group?
- What stands against this lasting more than a few weeks?
- What practices can you immediately put in place, such as the one at the top of the meeting, to begin?
- Who in the group can lead the effort of accountability for some of the busier members of the group?
Monday, November 30, 2009
OOPS! (It's a wonderful LI E part II)
What was the "one thing" you took away?
What surprised you?
What bothered you? Why?
Have you ever heard or come across a similar teaching or idea? Have you ever been taught something that was contradictory?
What is/was already part of your thinking on this subject?
What did you learn that was new to you?
*About God?
*About yourself?
*About others?
What changes of thought are necessary in light of what you learned?
What changes of action are needed?
How would life be different if you/we applied this teaching fully?
What are the hindrances, and what do we do about those?
What role can this group lay to help you take steps this week and beyond?
Sunday, November 22, 2009
IT'S A WONDERFUL LI E week 1
- Looking back at your life, what's an example of doing something foolishly because you were intent on doing it your own way?
- Why did you feel you had to do it your way?
- What stuck with you the most from the message Sunday?
- What was a new insight that God gave you during or after the message?
- Matthew 6:25-34
- Thoughts?
- How does this apply today?
- Is Jesus being realistic? why or why not?
- What does it look like to take this too far?
- What does it look like when you don't take this far enough?
- 1 Corinthians 2:1-5
- Thoughts?
- Why is it so important for Paul to put a disclaimer in his letter to Corinth?
- Why is living life God's way so difficult?
- What are specific ways that it sometimes seems impossible?
- Proverbs 3:1-6
- Thoughts?
- Biblically, it is considered wise to live in the ways of God and heed His instruction. How do we get wisdom into our hearts?
- What are some specific examples of how our culture at large contradicts the wisdom of daily trust in God?
- How can we begin to live in dependence on the way of God in specific areas of our life?
- How can this group be part of that effort?
- What are the hang-ups in our day-to-day existence that will cause problems with living in the sacred choreography?
- What are we able and willing to do about these once and for all?
- As a group, spend some time and read silently through Proverbs chapter 3 and 4. Make notes, write down questions and copy down passages that stand out on separate sheets of paper to ponder for the remainder of the week.
- Discuss this reading as you see fit at the close of your meeting. Be sure and spend some time in prayer with God that what has been discuss can become an actual, lived way of increased dependence on the Spirit of Christ every day.
Monday, November 16, 2009
N&O Highlights LifeGroup
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Drive. Park?
Sunday, November 8, 2009
November 8
- What would be the ramifications of you sitting on the couch all this whole week, getting up only to eat and use the bathroom?
- What is the difference between fulfilling healthy responsibilities, and trying to meet unhealthy expectations?
- What stuck with you most from the message this week?
- Do you feel like there is an area that God wants you to focus on specifically, or perhaps a general sense of expectation that hangs over you? Share.
- Luke 10:38-42
- Thoughts?
- How did Martha's pressure get passed on to her sister?
- How would this have gone if the guest were someone other than Jesus?
- Verse 38 says that the home is Martha's. How does this affect the pressure she feels to fulfill expectations?
- Knowing its her house, and her sister doesn't seem to share her values for hospitality, how could she have handled this better from the beginning?
- How is it that the perceptions of others become an expectation?
- How do we avoid this?
- How do we turn it around if we recognize it too late.
- What are some expectations that your family has on you that creates pressure, anger, resentment? Where do these expectations come from?
- What are cultural expectations that you feel you fall short of, also creating negativity? Where do these come from?
- Are there unhealthy expectations at work or school that you continue to be mastered by?
- How do you choose what to say yes to?
- How do you choose what to say no to?
- What can you imagine the benefits would be in being able to say yes to the right things for you, your family and your journey?
- Spend some time thinking of your life in columns, and how expectations and pressures shape how you live in each column. You may want to break down your life into categories like family, work, recreation, etc... (having a category called "faith" or "spirituality" is unbiblical, because the collection of categories is, together, your spiritual life. It's tied to each thing we do.) For instance, you may want to have a column for "children" and ask why they are involved in what they are involved in; are you trying to not go down in their history as a disinterested parent, a disappointing mom or dad? Are they dressed the way they are to impress other parents? Do you live in guilt for not being what you think your children need, and therefore are you parenting out of guilt and hopes to not further disappoint? Do the work of sorting through some of this in various categories, and write it down. You can then begin asking where the pressures and expectations come from, and then how do you choose more wisely what you say "yes" to. God will help free you from the slavery of living under the perceived expectations (or real unhealthy ones) of others so that you can simply do what's best.
Sunday, November 1, 2009
Enough 05
"For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."
- What does November bring for your family, traditionally?
- Does anyone experience changes at work when the seasons change?
- Does anyone have changes of mood when the seasons change?
- What has God taught you over the last 5 weeks through this series?
- What stuck with you most from this last message?
- Did anyone here say "yes" to something and lay a card on the stage? Don't tell us yet what it was, but describe for us what that experience was like.
- Eph 2:8-10
- Thoughts?
- How does this passage change your perception of the faith?
- What have you been reminded of that you had forgotten?
- The last part is about good works. What is Paul pushing for?
- The word for "workmanship" is ποίημα ("poiēma"), where we get our modern English word "poem". We are a work of art, created by the reputation of Christ, to create good works in the world that align with the reputation of Christ. How does this understanding alter your view of the passage, the faith or even your day-to-day life?
Grace is opposed to earning, not to effort.
- Matthew 9
- Thoughts?
- How would you describe all that happened in Matthew's life in this chapter?
- Who does Matthew look like to outsiders? Explain.
- What challenges and benefits might there be for us, in 2009, in being Jesus-followers that follow Spirit, rather than flesh and blood?
- How do we move from intellectual appreciation to following?
- What are the modern-day tax collectors booths that we must get up from?
- Why do many people hear the call of Jesus to follow him, to trust him completely, and to become part of what he is setting right in the world, and settle for less?
- What is most exciting to you about the prospect of reorienting your life around the interests of Christ?
- What is the most terrifying?
- How can this group say "yes" take one step right now toward becoming more, literal, Jesus-followers? If you said "yes on Sunday, tell us what you said yes about.
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Enough 04
- What's one thing you see God doing in your life?
- What's one thing you want to see God doing in your life?
- What most stuck with you from the message Sunday?
- Is there anyone in the group that is willing to admit that while someone was answering the question about what God is doing in our lives, you felt a sense of jealousy about their connection with God, and felt distance from God that you wished you knew how to remedy? Share.
- Do you believe this disconnected feeling is the absence of God's grace and love, or is it just a sense that your spiritual apathy has begun to cost you relationally with God?
- Ephesians 2:1-10
- As you read and reread this over the weeks, are there any themes or layers that you are noticing that you haven't before? Share.
- Genesis 3:6-13 and verse 21
- Thoughts?
- Bonus question: Whose fig leaf apparel looked better, and why? (have fun).
- Deep question alert: What are some of the changes you can imagine would occur between people who had previously related to each other with their own fig leaves between them (their own presentation, based on their own identity and strengths), versus people who relate to each other with the sacrifice of God between them (their identity rooted in what God is and has done)?
- Isaiah 64:6
- Rom 3:21-24
- Gal 2:21
- Why is it important to continue to emphasize our ineptitude in achieving righteousness and holiness on our own?
Leader note: many hold to the thought that God is so self-absorbed that he needs us to feel badly about ourselves. Explore in your discussion here that all of these passages and more are in reaction to a certain mindset that puts God's love as contingent on our work. Some of us get really cocky the more we believe this, which deeply affects our ability to humbly love and serve each other, as well as have any peace before our Father.
- Why is it so important to Paul and others that our faith system be wholly and completely centered on Jesus and what he did, rather than anything we do? Doesn't this let us off the hook?
Read
- Luke 18:9-14
- Thoughts?
- Does God want us groveling, or is he after something else? Explain.
- How does this passage speak to how we see others that are, what we would say at least to ourselves, "worse sinners than me"?
- Respond as a group to this quote
Evangelism is just one beggar telling the other beggars where she found some bread.
Discuss
- If our faith is in Christ Himself, and not in anything we are or do or know, and not in any organized group of Jesus-followers, how is life affected?
- Be honest: would any of the groups' answers to the above question be the same if you exchanged Jesus for some other god or moral standard? Why is it different with Jesus?
- This coming Sunday, our community is going to be invited to take a step and say "yes" to Jesus in some way. How will your life be different by you saying "yes" to Jesus in some way this week?
Leader note: You may want to call out specific people and embrace the awkward here. Many people have gotten so used to telling Jesus "wait", that they no longer realize they are telling Him "no". Statistically, a gentle but specific question about all this can get people thinking intentionally about their actual response to Jesus and bear much fruit!
- How can this group help you say "Yes", not so much to religion or to theology or two anything but Jesus himself?
Prayer
Additional texts:
- Galatians 2:16
- James 3:2
- Romans 3:9-28
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Enough 03
What was the "one thing" you took away?
What surprised you?
What bothered you? Why?
Have you ever heard or come across a similar teaching or idea? Have you ever been taught something that was contradictory?
What is/was already part of your thinking on this subject?
What did you learn that was new to you?
*About God?
*About yourself?
*About others?
What changes of thought are necessary in light of what you learned?
What changes of action are needed?
How would life be different if you/we applied this teaching fully?
What are the hindrances, and what do we do about those?
What role can this group lay to help you take steps this week and beyond?
Saturday, October 10, 2009
enough part II
What was the "one thing" you took away?
What surprised you?
What bothered you? Why?
Have you ever heard or come across a similar teaching or idea? Have you ever been taught something that was contradictory?
What is/was already part of your thinking on this subject?
What did you learn that was new to you?
*About God?
*About yourself?
*About others?
What changes of thought are necessary in light of what you learned?
What changes of action are needed?
How would life be different if you/we applied this teaching fully?
What are the hindrances, and what do we do about those?
What role can this group lay to help you take steps this week and beyond?
Relevant texts:
Eph 2:8-10
Col 1:21-22
Rom 5:6-11
Rom 2:4
Titus 3:3-7
Sunday, October 4, 2009
Enough 01
- Has there ever been a time that you messed something up at work, and rather than it turning out as bad as you anticipated, you were given grace and retained your position and involvement? Do tell.
- Have you ever seen examples of someone deserving punishment or isolation was given the opposite and it worked out for the better?
- What has stuck with you the most from Sunday's message?
- What was something you had never heard before?
- How has Grace been shaping your view of God and your relationship to Him?
- Ephesians 2:1-10
- Thoughts?
- What does it mean to be "dead in transgression and sin"?
- What does it mean to be "alive in Christ"?
- What is it that makes one cross over from "death to life"?
- Does your answer to the previous sound like God is responsible, or some well focused human energy gets you there?
- What are some of the problems with grace?
- If God had chosen the same system that other religions had used, what would Christianity look like?
- 1 Timothy 1:12-16
- Considering Saul/Paul's history (Acts 8-9), what are your thoughts?
- In verse 16, Paul refers to the grace and patience he was shown, despite his past, as an example God was making of him for others to see. How does this differ from how we usually think of an authority confronting our darkness by "making an example of us"? What are the risks? Why would God do it?
- Galatians 4:4-9, Philippians 3:4-8
- Thoughts?
- Why wouldn't someone want to surrender themselves to the grace of God? Why do we seem to gravitate to a system that requires work to be on a scale?
- How is all this different than the Jesus you learned prior?
- Does this mean that there is nothing to work at at all?
- Respond as a group to this quote by Dallas Willard:
"Grace is not opposed to effort, it is opposed to earning. Earning is an attitude. Effort is an action."
- So what? What does this have to do with our life?
- How does a better understanding of grace shape your relationships?
- How does a better understanding of grace help you deal with your past, or your anxieties about the merits of your present?
- If you have been trying to impress God with your scale-tipping goodness, how can this group help you step into the grace of Christ and become a trusting follower of Jesus Christ?
- Spend some time praying that the Holy Spirit would reveal all the ways we live as a people trying to get God to love us, to be impressed with us, or to be less upset with us due to our resume of deeds. Pray that the group would know peace that only comes with understanding the grace and love shown to us in Christ Jesus. Pray also for people that have cheapened grace by making it something that gets you out of trouble. That it's something to shrug our shoulders at since "God is going to forgive it any way". Finally, pray over anyone in the group that doesn't know this grace and has, as a result, settled for living outside of it in the world where you must work to keep the scales tipped to the "good" side so that God will be good to us.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
...THE END... the last sign
- What's something you have learned about God in the last 4 weeks?
- Has there ever been a time where you ordered food that wasn't good for you while your friend ordered something very healthy? How did you feel?
- Have you ever been talking about someone and the other person said that they weren't comfortable discussing someone that wasn't present? How did you feel?
- What impacted you most from the message Sunday?
- What other thoughts has it stirred up?
- Isaiah 6:1-7
- Thoughts?
- What did God say to Isaiah to call him into judgment about the purity of his speech?
- Explain what happened in this passage in your own words.
- Luke 5:1-8
- What did Jesus say about Simon (Peter's) sinfulness?
- How would you explain what has happened in this passage with regard to judgment?
- John 8:1-11
- Thoughts?
- How would you say Jesus handles sin?
- Knowing that God wants to restore all creation to its original state of goodness (Gen 1:31, Rev 21:1-4), what are reasons people may or may not look forward to the Judge coming to set things right?
- What's are some differences between a person that welcomes the judgment of God, and one that dreads it?
- What shifts have to take place for one to change their position on judgment?
- Luke 12:2-3
- How does this passage affect how we live today?
- Is fear of being found out the point? Why or why not?
- What value does God have in one day turning all the lights on and disclosing all the secrets?
- How does God's judgment affect our day-to-day growth?
- How does God's judgment affect our hope in a world where things are often not fair?
- How can this group employ Christ's style of judgment, while at the same time letting go of religion's style of judgment?
- In what ways might the Spirit of Christ want to bring his judgment into the lives of this LifeGroup, but the members will not allow it?
- Invite the Word of God, Jesus, and the two-edged sword of his absolute goodness to wage war against all that which works against him. Leave a solid chunk of time for this to occur, and challenge the group to take some time at various points this week to keep up this prayer exercise of inviting the judgment of Christ.